Mar 30

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Sheila’s Dad, Jerry Hoffman died November 14, 2004

Jerry Hoffman, Sheila's dad, died November 14, 2004Allen Jerome (Jerry) Hoffman died November 14, 2004, at the age of 79 in Aventura, Florida after an 18 month battle with cancer. Born May 15, 1925, in New York, a son of Gertrude (Meisel) and Joseph Hoffman, he is a former resident of Middletown, Rhode Island.

He and his brother, Delmore, had owned and operated the West End Cleaners on Connell Highway in Newport. He was later employed by Bristol Toyota Village and Competition Imports as a salesman.

Mr. Hoffman and wife, Brenda, have lived in Miami Gardens, Florida for the past 15 years where he was employed until a few years ago at Metro-Dade Greynolds Park Golf Course. An avid golfer, he was a former club champion at Pocasset Country Club and member of the Montaup Country Club in Portsmouth. He was a US Army Veteran of WWII and a member of the Newport Kiwanis for many years.

Mr. Hoffman is survived by his wife of 57 years, Brenda (Levy) and their two children, Sheila who resides with her husband in Seattle, Washington and Howard Eric (Ric) who resides with his wife at the family homestead in Middletown. He also leaves three granddaughters, Heather of Newport, Shaina of Boston, MA and Sarah of Providence.

 

Spencer’s Dad, Ray Beard, died March 26, 2005

Ray Beard, Spencer's dad died March 26, 2005My beloved father, Raymond Pearce Beard, died on March 26, 2005. He’d been suffering from complications of a stroke since the previous July. The stroke was actually a complication from his quintuple bypass surgery in May of 2004. It had been a rough year for Daddy.

I was blessed to have been able to be with him and my family during his final days. He was at Willamette Falls Hospital in Oregon City. The staff there was wonderful, but it became clear that Dad wasn’t going to pull through the latest episode. They monitored his pain levels, but disconnected all the other hospital paraphernalia except the catheter.

My mom, siblings, spouses, grandchildren and great-grandchildren spent 3 days at Dad’s bedside listening to him breathe and having our final time together. We were quite a crowd, sometimes numbering nearly 30 in the waiting room. In his last hours, Dad was surrounded by Mom and the seven kids. It was quite a special time.

He passed relatively easily. We were glad he could let go of a life which had been quite wonderful, but physically unbearable by the end. One very special moment came when Sister Vivian played harp music to help the transition just minutes after Dad died.

We’ll all miss him terribly. He was a fabulous person, an excellent dad, the role model of your dreams. I’ll always remember him sitting at his loom, putting together another Navajo rug. Or maybe I’ll always remember him waking me up for my paper route and delivering bundles of papers for me to pick up on the way. Or maybe……

Both our Dads died: Sheila’s in November 2004 and Spencer’s in March. So we want our friends to know about Five Wishes, an affordable tool for officially documenting your end-of-life preferences. View  the beautiful catalog of Ray’s Navajo rugs. Note: this is a 2.5 mg PDF.

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